Have just read an article called “#MeToo and the Atheist Community”

Have just read an article called “#MeToo and the Atheist Community”
Some thoughts on it.
“The sheer scope of this movement, touching so many corners of society at once, is astounding. Then again, we probably shouldn’t be surprised. As I’ve said before, the sad truth is that an allegation of sexual harassment or assault against a powerful man isn’t an extraordinary claim; it’s an ordinary one.”
Ordinary. That’s tragic.
“What seems different this time is that women who speak out are being believed and taken seriously, while men are actually admitting their misdeeds and suffering consequences. “
“However, as I said, we in the secular community can’t afford to sit easy. We’re no exception to this trend. As much as we like to think of ourselves as rational and superior, our own gender politics are far from enlightened. We, too, have skeletons in our closets that need to be dragged out into the light of day.”
Yeah. It’s not just the fundagelicals who grope us women. It’s all men in every walk of life.
“It’s disappointing and enraging to see how many men, including many allegedly feminist men, now stand revealed as creeps and hypocrites. But as painful as it is, it’s a necessary reckoning. Men have been getting away with loathsome behavior for too long, and it’s unsurprising that some of the predators would try to camouflage themselves by mouthing the right words about gender equality. It hurts to find out that they were never the allies they said they were. But that knowledge is essential if we’re going to put a stop to their misbehavior and build a robust, consistent social-justice movement that lives up to its own principles.”
I’ve said it so many times before… We see someone who is different from us for whatever reason, whatever we identify as “different” and we go on the attack. For some reason, we choose of our own free will to see someone who is “different from” and treat that person as “less than.”
It seems to be the most fundamental human dynamic. It seems to me to be the most basic thing that Jesus smashed to smithereens. “Love your neighbor as yourself,” Jesus tells us every single day. “Love your neighbor as God first love you,” Jesus tells us every single day.
When are we simply going to concentrate on learning what that means? When are we simply going to accept that no one is “less than” another? When are we simply going to accept that no one is “less than” me?
Jesus tells us over and over how we can learn this and change our lives and be better people. So have others: the prophets of the Hebrew Scriptures, the writers of the Christian Scriptures, the Greek and Latin Doctors of the Church, Hildegard of Bingen, Catherine of Sienna, Theresa of Avila, Evelyn Underhill, C. S. Lewis, I could go on and on and on and on and on and one.
Our teachers are out there. All we have to do is admit we need to learn from them.
Here’s a link to the article that provoked this piece.

One place where readers can find these teachers in my facebook group, Celebrate What Christians Have in Common, which can be found here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1409874399270377/

A place to find out what to do in concrete and specific acts to improve this world is in another Facebook group, Gloriamarie’s Progressive Stuff, which can be found here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/gloriamariesprogressivepetitions/


About “Christians” in the News

One of the saddest things I can say in response to the kinds of things KKKhristians in the news say is something I’ve been saying repeatedly on my Facebook group, Gloriamarie’s Progressive Stuff (https://www.facebook.com/groups/gloriamariesprogressivepetitions/) where many people are repulsed by what they see of the news-making Christians. I say it to anyone who feels despair .

If we base our faith on the actions of others, then we are not basing our faith in the eternal Godhead. If we judge Christianity by the actions of those in the news, we are not using our critical thinking skills to learn about historic Christianity.

Without making any bones about it and speaking the truth as baldly as possible, those types of Christians who are in the news, and the types of Christians who embrace the teaching of those in the news, are heretics and many of them are apostate because they have turned their backs on Jesus’ actual teachings to embrace the lies of the prosperity Gospel or the lie that the Bible is to be read literally. Neither of these have been taught by the Church historically and neither were they taught by the Reformers. Those are doctrines taught by greedy and self-serving people who want to hold onto their wealth and ignore the hard sayings of Jesus.

It is a tremendous shame that so many people allow their definition of the Christian faith to be defined by certain teachings which appeared around 1850, with no basis in the Gospels or the prophets of the Hebrew Scriptures.

If there are those who would like exposure to the teachings of the historic Church in its many flavors and varieties, then they are welcome to Celebrate What Christians Have in Common, also on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/groups/1409874399270377/

Our faith needs to be based on the Gospel, the words, and actions of the Living Word of God, Jesus. Every single day there are billions of Christians all over the world quietly living into their vocations, never making it into the news but working with the angles to see to it that the hungry are fed, the naked clothed, the sick cared for and needs met for those who don’t have resources.

Every single day there are billions of Christians all over the world acting out of compassion, empathy, generosity, gentleness, kindness, and sympathy in a kneejerk reaction to the abuse, brutality, bullying, greed, and selfishness with which are all surrounded.

Christians are out there, working on the side of the angels. But because they are poor in spirit, pay attention to the Beatitudes, we don’t hear about them. It is that kind of people who draw people to investigate Jesus.

Take heart, all who despair. The Gospel of Jesus prevails now as it always has despite apostates and heretics.

It’s Been One Year Since Evil Was Elected

One of the things I have noticed this past year is the unabashed glee on the part of all who have embraced authoritarianism, bigotry, denial of climate change, destroying families, destruction of the planet and God’s creation, discrimination, fascism, global warming, gynophobia, hatred of the poor, homophobia, intolerance of a different of opinion, intolerance of people that are different, Islamaphobia, kleptocracy, misogyny, nonpartisanship, police brutality, prejudice, racism, in favour of rape, in favour of sexual assault, in favour of sexual harassment, in favour of sexual molestation, treason, transgenderphobia, white supremacy, and xenophobia.

It has been hard to overlook the increase in domestic violence by white men. It has to overlook the increased violence against women.

It has been hard to overlook the increased attempts to control women and take our agency away from us. People want to take away our birth control and our right to determine what do with our very own bodies.

But what is wonderful is the number of people who are resisting the evil that is the GOP. People who have never cared about politics are waking up and asking “What can I do to rid us of all these wrongs?” Since January, since I began mentioning that I have such a group, my Facebook group, Gloriamarie’s Progressive Stuff has increased its membership by 620 new members.

One can’t help but notice what happened in yesterday’s elections. People got out and voted and the RepubliKKKans did not have it all their own way. One can’t help but notice the increased bigotry, prejudice, and racism in many of the GOP candidates and it has been rejected in prominent states such as VA and NJ.

Some of us on Gloriamarie’s Progressive Stuff (on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/groups/gloriamariesprogressivepetitions/) have been developing a theory. Sometime ago in the late 1970s, some of us remember reading from more than one reputable news source, that at the rate the Hispanic demographic was growing, Hispanics would within fifty years be the largest demographic in the USA since Hispanics, according to the article, are less likely to use birth control and seek abortions.

Isn’t interesting to note that around the same time, all of a sudden evangelicals reversed their position on abortion, the ERA was defeated in Congress, and the homeschooling trend became so popular among evangelicals.

Now, in addition to trying to end abortion, the GOP is trying to eliminate women’s access to birth control. What would be the logical result of all these restrictions? An increase in the birth of white babies, an increase in the white population, and white people remaining the largest demographic in the USA.

Yeah, it does sound farfetched, but then so do many of the policies of the GOP which make no sense at all.

From my POV, the choice is simple. USians can choose evil or they can choose goodness. The RepubliKKKans and their supporters have embraced evil.

The RepuliKKKans have rejected the gospel and when they do claim a faith, it is in the heresies of the prosperity gospel and Biblical literalism. Both of those heresies were introduced in the mid-1800s and have never been taught by the Church, not even the Reformers taught such stuff. To embrace the prosperity gospel is to reject Jesus.

And that’s the bottom line.

Living in the Cupped Hands of God

I used to get panic attacks quite frequently and thank God for better living through chemistry because there some that were so severe that the only way to deal with them was through medication.
I am disabled due to Major Depressive Disorder with Anxiety. The onset was when I was nine and being sexually molested for two years when I was twelve only increased the depression as did being raped by my husband when I was thirty. By forty-five, I was disabled and spent decades trying to get a grip on my symptoms.
One thing I have to mention.. pastoral care from the clergy surely can suck. I have encountered very few priests with any gifts in that area. I can’t begin to count the number of times I was tempted to give up my faith because of the way Christians treated me.
Then I realized to base my faith on the way other Christians behaved was a serious error. My faith needed to be based on Jesus and the Gospels.
Many years ago a friend told me something I have never forgotten. “Gloriamarie, we can’t expect Christians to act like Christians. We can only be thankful when they do.” These words have gotten me through some hairy moments and the awful treatment of abusive Christians.
We are all sinners. We are all imperfect. We all have a lot of crap to deal with in this life. Life sucks a lot of the time. My response to that is this: Jesus is.
When I was thirty-two, I had a Moment that I think has been the defining moment of my life that told me then and still tells me now who I really am. I think this is true for all of us.
When I was in my very early twenties and in the grip of the Insidious Dark, I used to cry myself to sleep, begging Jesus to hold my hand. It would be so easy for Him to do, but it never happened.
One Saturday morning in late March 1982 after being on anti-depressant meds for the about six weeks or so, the first time I ever took them, I was sitting in bed sipping coffee and praying the service of Morning Prayer in the Book of Common Prayer of the Episcopal Church. I don’t remember which if the prayers or Psalms provoked me into screaming my anger at God that Jesus never held my hand when I begged so hard for it.
God said to me “My child, how could I hold your hand when I hold you in Mine always?” And I had a vision of me in the cupped hands of God standing on the fleshy pads at the base of God’s fingers, holding onto the tips of those fingers in a “Kilroy was here” manner, looking out at the world.
I believe with all my heart that all of us live there. All of us are held in the cupped hands of God and no matter what happens to us, whether we are raped, mugged, robbed, sick, beaten, abused, bullied, that we still live out lives in God’s cupped hands and nothing this world can do can ever dislodge us from that place.
God never promises to protect us from the various slings and arrows of outrageous fortune and all the varieties of hideousness that living in this world exposes us to, God never promises to interfere with the free will of others, but God does promise to hold us in those cupped hands and we can rely on that.
Some horrible shit has happened to me since that vision. I expect some horrible shit to happen to me as a result of living in this country at this moment with this administration. I am disabled, handicapped, impoverished, and the RepuliKKKans want me to die, but whatever the future may hold I live in the cupped hands of God and if I die, I do so in the upped hands of God. Nothing can ever remove me from that place.
Except for the exercise fo my own free will and my own choice to step out of God’s cupped hands. It’s a choice we all have: to live our lives in God’s cupped hands or not.


This is going around social media right now:

“Me, too.
Copied: “If all the women who have been sexually harassed or assaulted wrote ‘Me too’ as a status, we might give people a sense of the magnitude of the problem.”

When I was twelve a male family member sexually molested me for two years. At first, I would tell my parents who did not believe me and said he would never do that. Eventually, I stopped trying to tell them and endured. The depression that started when I was nine increased. The molestation stopped when he found another younger girl to torment.

When I was married my sex life with my husband was good until it wasn’t. Evangelicalism is a form of religion that invites hypocrisy. There’s a lot of pressure to conform. My husband felt that pressure more deeply than I and in order to make me submissive, he started raping me.

Again, I wasn’t believed. No evangelical friends believed me. My priest didn’t believe me. “He wouldn’t do that. He’s a good Christian man. He’s a nice guy,” were all things that they said.

There was one person who believed me and that was my psychologist and he helped me leave my husband. I still thank God for him to this day. Naturally, I divorced him.

Eventually, I went to seminary and I had healed enough from the rape to start dating again. My fellow seminarians told me they wanted to date me because of my “brains, beauty, and obvious competence.” In the three years, I dated several men for differing amounts of time, two of them long enough to begin to have some serious feelings for. Mind you, we were at an evangelical seminary so sex was not part of the dating relationship.

In every case, regardless of how long or how short a time we had dated, each man would come to me, tell me how much he valued our time together, would always treasure it, but he had met someone down at the College and he believed that relationship had a potential he didn’t see in ours.

Graciously, I wished them well although inside I felt as if I had once again been raped because like my husband, they wanted someone more submissive and a much younger, more naive woman was one who still believed that malarkey about a wife being a second-class citizen instead of one who was equal partners with her husband, according to what Paul wrote in the original Greek.

Those verses about heterosexual marriage have been translated into English with an agenda which is to make sure women are property, not as people with brains, minds, souls, and spirits of our own, created as much in the image and likeness of God as any man, with our own vocations as much as any man. Paul’s intention it says in the Greek is for heterosexual women to be equal partners with their heterosexual husbands. Paul preaches egalitarianism.

If followers of Jesus universally reclaimed Paul’s original purpose for men in and women in heterosexual marriage, if we internalize it and start living it, we would be a beacon to the world teaching men and women what a heterosexual marriage is supposed to be and maybe it would filter throughout the world and we would see rape for the deviant perversion it is.

If You’re Overwhelmed Right Now

If You’re Overwhelmed Right Now

I don’t know you but I think I know some things about you.

I think you’re exhausted right now.
I think you find it hard to fall asleep; worrying what might happen if you do, the monsters you imagine may run amok overnight.
I think you wake up in the morning, and the first thing you feel is a thick dread for the coming day and the brand new terrors surely awaiting you.
I think you fear for people you love deeply; those who give your ordinary days meaning, those who are close enough to touch and who you know are threatened and frightened.
I think you fear for strangers far off in the distance; those whose faces and names you’ll never know and yet whose suffering you still fully grieve.
I think you look at your children across the room and that you mourn the world they’re walking into, that you expend so much energy trying to shield them from the kind of nightmares that they shouldn’t ever have to face in the light of day.
I think you feel the very bedrock of the things you used to stand upon shaking violently in these moments; once elemental truths about country, about God, about the goodness of people and the future of the planet that no longer seem as true.
I think you wear the crippling fatigue of these days in the ever-sharpening lines around your eyes, and in the tired smile you find it more and more difficult to form.
I think you feel fully pressed against your capacity to feel or care or continue.
I think you feel like you’re attending a perpetual funeral for America.
I think you’re at the end of the last thread of your rope.

And I’d like to tell you that you’re wrong to feel these all of things.

I’d like to argue each point with you; to chip away bit by bit at the massive weight upon your shoulders, to expose your every fear as simply a mirage, as just the darkness playing tricks on you—but I can’t do that.

I can’t do that because I’m not convinced you’re at all wrong to feel these things. In fact, probably all I can do is to let you know that I think you’re likely right about all that feels not right—and that I am with you in it.

Maybe the best and only gift I can give you today is to let you know that you’re not alone and you’re not crazy. You are in good company in this plentiful misery.

Perhaps knowing that someone else feels affinity with you in all your frazzled, sickened, outraged desperation is enough to sustain you a little longer. Maybe hearing that at least one other human being is suffering in solidarity with you, is itself a comfort. Maybe these words will be enough to tether you to hope for a little while longer—and that would be a victory.

Because in times when threat comes and grief visits and sadness lingers, the greatest weapon we have is hope; the belief that somehow, in ways we can’t understand or see or make sense of—we will outlast the demons and the darkness and the very non-rightness of the present. All I can offer you is the invitation not to lose hope and pray that in accepting it, I’ll be able to keep going to.

I don’t know you but I think I know something about you.

I know that I’m overwhelmed along with you.


My response:

Here’s what I am convinced is so overwhelming to many. At this moment, we have a government with no checks and balances, an administration dedicated to the destruction of not only the U.S. Constitution and civil liberties but also of common decency.
The latest antics of the Hair Führer of the Alt-Reich attack the poorest of the United States and would deny them something Jesus orders his follows to do: “care for the sick.” He reveals his inhumanity and total depravity. If you support him in these things, then you too are inhumane and totally depraved.
The inevitable comparison of the GOP with the Nazis has shredded Godwin’s Law so much that it no longer applies. If we are willing to be taught by history, we must see that the people the GOP are targeting are the same people the Nazis first target, “all persons who suffered from diseases considered hereditary, such as mental illness, learning disabilities, physical deformity, epilepsy, blindness, deafness, and severe alcoholism.” (https://www.ushmm.org/collections/bibliography/people-with-disabilities)
No one who truly follows Jesus may allow this. No one who truly follows Jesus will allow this. No one who truly follows Jesus can agree with this.
If there are those who claim to be Christians and think the GOP is on to a good thing, then your theology is deeply flawed to the point that your salvation is at risk. See Matthew 25:31-46. The Church has consistently interpreted this passage in exactly the same way. Damnation is the result of failing to clothe the naked, care for the sick, feed the hungry, and providing the needy with what they require.
It’s as simple as that. You can use your words to claim otherwise, but you are only attempting to defend that which is depraved, indefensible, the inhumane.
People who wish to be accounted on the side of the angels must act, speak up, and demand this administration reverse its course.
One way to persist in resistance to the evil Trump and the GOP has already done and still intend to do is my FB group, Gloriamarie’s Progressive Stuff, where I post actions, petitions, info, actual news, evidence, facts. There’s a pinned post that I highly recommend people read. I also ask a screening question so I can keep the spammers and the trolls out. Please answer it so I can approve you with delay. All who read this are invited.


The Church’s Wasteful LGBTQ-Phobia

The Church’s Wasteful LGBTQ-Phobia


It seems nothing brings young, white, cisgender Evangelical guys together, quite like talking smack about “the gays.”

Yesterday I watched a group of such folks interacting on a friend’s timeline as they discussed the recent bathroom bills here in America. It’s become an all-too familiar sight: professed Christians falling all over themselves to ridicule Transgender men and women, to minimize their pain and abuse, and to do what far too many young, white Evangelical guys do: imagine themselves experts on Biology, simply because they’re read the first few chapters of the Book of Genesis.

I looked on as they massaged each other’s egos with insider religious language, as they patronizingly poo-poo’d the firsthand testimonies from LGBTQ men and men and women who tried to educate them, as they let fly with a barrage of know-it-all pontification about the inner workings of complete strangers. It was a microcosm of the Bible Belt Church’s sinful obsession with sexuality; the way homophobia and transphobia have become false idols they worship with unrivaled passion.They will do anything to hold onto to this inherited, antiquated fearful religion—even at the expense of the innocent human beings they fracture in the process.

Over the past two decades as a student pastor, I’ve sat with and listened to hundreds of LGBTQ young people, and I’ve had a front row seat to the violence the Church has manufactured: the depression, self-harm, and the isolation it breeds. As I watched these guys recklessly make bold public pronouncements about gender and orientation, I couldn’t help think about the people looking on; those too afraid or too hurt to respond. I thought about the people in their churches, about their family members and co-workers and neighbors. I wondered if they had any inkling of the harm they do to these people every single day—and I’m almost positive they don’t. 

So many white Evangelicals have existed so long in the bubble of their inherited privilege, they’ve come to believe they’re the baseline for humanity and the rightful moral policemen for the world; so self-assuredly telling other people what is true about them, instead of actually listening to them speak their truth. Once they decide they’ve figured God out (and that God looks and thinks and loves like them)—there’s no humility, no effort at compassion, and certainly no considering they might actually be wrong—they just bulldoze strangers with a theology of damnation, delivered with hubris and ridicule, and some condescending lip service about “truth in love.”

When it comes to gender identity and sexual orientation, I’m amazed how many Christians still rely on a literal handful of 4000-year old verses written in another language by authors they often can’t verify and know very little about—than millions of flesh and blood gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender men and women standing in front of them telling their stories. (Not to mention, Science.)

It’s all such a waste that such vast resources are expended by Christians continually fighting a battle that bears no redemptive fruit, that actually multiplies people’s marginalization, that generates unnecessary pain—and a war that Jesus isn’t asking them to wage in the first place.

Jesus did say that he came to bring help to the poor and oppressed; that those who loved him would care for the least, that they would be fierce lovers of people. Yet I don’t see a passion to be about these things, and that’s one of the most wasteful sins the Church is guilty of. If Evangelicals were just a fraction as burdened to stop poverty, hunger, systemic racism, or bigotry as they are about policing LGBTQ folk’s bedrooms, bathrooms, and body parts—we’d have very little poverty or hunger or racism or bigotry.

But I guess those other things encroach too much on these folk’s comfort, they’re more personally inconvenient, they’re far more taxing than simply dismissing a total stranger based on who and how they love and imagining they’re being righteous.

Every day I grieve the way Christianity is putting LGBTQ people through undue suffering, the callousness of the hearts of so many of those who claim Jesus, and the excuses we make for doing everything but what Jesus actually called us to do.

It’s all a terrible waste.

Daresay the same old same old voices will shout out erroneously translated Bible verses to say how wrong homosexuality is. <yawn>

The issue is NOT and NEVER has been whether or not homosexuality is wrong in God’s eyes. The issue is the same as it ever has been. The issue is stated in the Hebrew Scriptures. It is repeated in the Christian Scriptures. The issue is that we must love our neighbors as ourselves as God first loved us.

However, all the homophobic rhetoric is responsible for heinous acts that have no place in God’s Kingdom and are not welcome in heaven.

If a reader of this blog thinks there is anything justifiable in the following two stories, then my most loving recommendation is that the reader seek mental health treatment with great urgency.

Dear Wheaton College: Hazing Has No Place in Christ’s Kingdom

“It certainly doesn’t seem possible to be focused on Jesus while kidnapping, physically restraining, and attempting to insert an object into someone’s rectum before beating him and leaving him half-naked on a baseball field with two torn shoulders.

“Five young men who identified as Christians not only singled out another young man for violence, but also signaled their Islamophobia and homophobia in the process. According to the victim’s statement, the football players who kidnapped him played Middle Eastern music and claimed to be Muslims who wanted to have sex with goats before telling him that he would be their “goat” for the evening. The Islamophobia is obvious; the homophobia of their action is shown in the way they attacked his masculinity in their efforts to humiliate him, as Wheaton alumnus Hank Chen explains. In an act of team bonding that is a modern manifestation of building cohesion through violence, these five men asserted themselves not only against a vulnerable freshman, but also against those whom they consider enemy others – Muslims and the LGBTQ community.”

“Trans Teen Brutally Murdered in Missouri; Four Charged”

“Three people have been charged with first-degree murder in the brutal slaying of a transgender teenager in Houston, Mo., and a fourth has been arrested on other charges.

“Ally Steinfeld, 17, was found dead last week in a rural area near a mobile home occupied by one of the suspects, the Associated Press reports. Both local and national media identified Steinfeld by a male name, but The TM Planet, a website focusing on transgender issues, identified her as Ally. She had been stabbed repeatedly, including in the genitals, and her eyes had been gouged out, according to the AP. Her body was burned in an attempt to conceal evidence of the crime.”


The kind of people who teach their children that such actions as those above are righteous, are also the kind of people who elected mentally deranged people such as Roy Moore and Donald Trump.

People guilty of such hich crimes and misdeamors had better get help very soon. I mean that with all love because otherwise too many lives, those of both victims and perpetrators are lost to hate and fear.